the borderline cycle

1 We are born, innocent and free

2 Somebody else does something bad to us (trauma). We don't even know it's happening

3 As we grow up, as does our fears of abandonment and rejection, and we are not even aware of why it's happening

4 We seek out the love, approval, and assurance we never got and desperately need

5 We are rejected, abandoned, villianized, and gaslighted, further proving that we are indeed as worthless as we believe

6 Repeat #4

7 Repeat #5

8 Over and over, until we die, never having been able to experience truly being loved, the one thing we desperately needed to heal from something we did not cause or deserve, the thing we searched for our whole life