BPD and Relationships

The person with BPD begins a relationship with rapid intensity. They begin to believe that this person is "the one" and that they're perfect

The relationship progresses, but the person with BPD becomes hypersensitive to the smallest action or word which can be perceived negatively. These small actions become a source of fixation for them and their fear of abandonment and low self-esteem start telling them that their partner is no longer interested

The person with BPD resorts to a mentality of pushing their partner as a response to the separation they believe exists in the relationship. Their goal is to create a scenario where their partner "fights" for the relationship and demonstrates a level of concern that removes any previous worry

Direct results of their purposeful distancing causes the relationship to spiral downward. They become convinced that their partner is going to leave them

The relationship ends, the person with BPD will experience extreme emotional mood swings, going from sadness to rage against their former partner. The emptiness and validated fear of abandonment become a source of fuel for their burning anger. They may lash out without provocation. It may lead to suicidal thoughts

Suicidal thoughts. May lead to suicidal behaviors or suicide.